Something I have always said to my friends when they have a problem that they don’t think is important enough for anyone to care about is: If it matters to you, then it matters. I don’t know where I first heard this but it really stuck in my head, and now it’s a phrase that I don’t seem to go a week without saying.
For some reason a lot of my friends like to talk to me when they’re having issues. I don’t really understand why they pick me, because my advice is usually along the lines of ‘I’ll hold them you hit them’ or ‘kick him’ or something generally not helpful at all. Yet still they come. I think trying to give advice is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, what happens if it all goes to pot, you give really bad advice, someone follows it and ends up hurt because of it? What do you do in that situation? Maybe that’s why I’ve never given serious advice in my life; there’s just too much pressure to get it right.
Thankfully, I think a lot of the time people don’t really want their problems solved. It seems to me that they want someone to talk to, to be able to chat it all through with, someone who will make them laugh about it all in the end. Eventually just by talking people come to their own solutions. Maybe I should just tell them that next time?
As a general rule, if my friends are happy I’m happy. That will have to do for now.
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